last night i was enjoying my fifth date with a guy who's turning out to be really great, when a trip to the men's room left me reconsidering the whirlwind relationship in which i seem to have gotten caught up in the last few weeks.
my date and i had some time to kill before a movie, so we stopped for a bite and some heat in a pub (as is typical of Northeast U.S. weather, Friday was still Summer and by Sunday morning everyone was wearing a winter jacket). while standing at a urinal, i looked up to find that someone had left me (?) a message in this bar in which i had never before been:
i'm not usually one to be superstitious or to read great meaning into insignificant things (fine, i AM), but the message caught me off guard. i wish someone had left it as "F MATT," rather than to cause me to question whether i was being told to slow down and to just be friends with my date. "Friend MATT!" that exclamation point is just so --- so -- harsh. if there were a comma (i.e. "Friend, MATT!") i probably would have called the whole thing off already. fortunately, drunk guys in bars aren't super concerned with grammar. and for that i thank them. i like the wiggle room on this one.
to make matters more thought-provoking, during the course of our evening together, my date told me that there's a chance that he'll be taking a position with a hospital in a different city in the new year. just a chance, but a great enough one that he felt the need to mention this early on. and while i haven't known him long, i already know that i'll be devastated if he leaves -- that is, unless i heed the pub urinal message, wind back the dating, and have a "just friends" talk with this really great guy.
do i take it as a word of caution, or do i ignore it? am i being crazy? is the universe speaking to me? you tell me.
in other news, the Anna Faris film "What's Your Number?" is laugh-out-loud funny yet surprisingly serious for the leading lady, considering her customary slapstick roles. as a fun rom-com, especially for purposes of a date, i highly recommend seeing it.