well said, savage

dear dan savage,

your latest sassy rant has been the highlight of my day thus far. you're always entertaining, but i most enjoy when you start fuming and swearing and name-calling. mostly because a lot of nasty republicans/bigots/christianists read your site for fodder for their own arguments, culture war tactics, and Fox News programs. i can't wait 'til you crack and start screaming like this on CNN.

anyway, i just feel compelled to share:

Someday you're gonna realize that giving us everything we want is the only way to make this issue—marriage equality—go away. Seriously. Giving us what we want won't stop gay marriage (duh), but it's the only way to stop gay marriage from getting so much airtime and press. Oh, you fuckers can win one at the ballot box and slow the progress toward justice and equality for all families. But we're going to keep pressing for our rights regardless. We're not going anywhere and we're never going to give up. We're going to go on fighting you and fighting for our rights and we're going to wear you fuckers down and you're going to lose and we're going to win.

The only question is just how much of your time and money you're going to waste on your losing effort to stop us from achieving our full equality.

And our equality isn't going to deprive you of anything. The coming of legal same-sex marriage will not result in "traditional" marriage—opposite marriage—perishing from the face of the earth. That's seriously not our goal—heck, most of us are products of "opposite marriage." Once we've achieved full marriage equality you can go right on having your "traditional" marriages while we enjoy our "non-traditional" marriages. You can have your opposite genitalia, we can have our matched sets. You can have your vulgar church weddings, we can have our dignified civil ceremonies (and some of us will have church weddings too, of course, but only in churches that support marriage equality).

And you can go right on teaching your children that gay marriage is wrong and that gay people are sinful, while we teach our children—most of whom will be straight when they grow up—that love and marriage, gay or straight, are beautiful things and that it's too bad some hateful, clueless bigots out there can't see that. And we're going to live our lives openly and without shame to give hope to your gay children.

And we're going to keep suing and marching and organizing and electing homos and demanding our rights until we've got 'em. Prop 8 didn't end or settle anything. It ain't over until we say it's over. And we won't say it's over until we've won.

Have a nice day.

amen, dan.

xoxo

M